Magic moments : peeling potatoes

I really fancied mash potato , knowing little miss isn't fond of it . I thought be great idea to get her involved . 

Although she can't quite do it yet , she loved helping and got the idea of what we were doing . 

 Nope didn't get her to eat any but it was still fun to do together .   

Advice , people's views , there ways . Maybe you should do this maybe you shouldn't ?!
 Isn't it hard ? Yd on you demand more help ? Didn't he know what he is missing ?

For some reason people feel I need advice or need to hear there view . Most of the times I brush it off , other times I get angry and sometimes it leads to a really good conversation!!

Tonight I had one of them moments . My daughter had been up most if the night with a stomach bug and I've got lots of things I working towards . Bad timing . But that's life .

 In a text message someone said to me ' you should make her dad take her ' . Share the hard tines as well as the good . He should take her because he isn't having her Christmas .

Every persons situation is different , I'm very happy with mine or have learnt to be .  The simply fact is if I had still be with my daughters dad , I would have been getting up anyways . It's what mums do !

This all lead on to a discussion about how they feel a fathers shoes can never be replaced . That a person can come do a good job and never replace that child's father .

To a point I agree , they will never be there dad by blood , but I do feel that there shoes can be replaced .

It's all down to timing in my eyes . My daughters dad left when she was just over a year . She doesn't know what life is like with a dad who is there every night and at weekends . She doesn't understand the role of a dad .

 She doesn't know what she's missing . To her daddy picks her up a few hours on a Friday , they go to nanny house and play . They sometimes go to McDonald's . She sometimes sleeps at daddy's house although a new thing .  Daddy is someone who comes and goes . Something she does out of routine

The issues or the circumstances around the times he sees his child are always changing and I would never stop he being part of her life . The door is always open where my daughter is concerned . We make are choices and live with what that brings .

I'm sure when my daughter enters school I will have to answer the questions that will come surrounding  daddy.  I know there will be hard times .

I've had discussions with my daughters dad on my fears hat life will move on and he will miss out . I don't have to have these conversations . I do because I car if  for my daughters sake if not his .

My daughter deserves the very best .

But as the same why she doesn't miss what a father does or the role of a father as you will .  How can a person who doesn't know what it's like to spend there time with here child on a daily basis or a person who has never lived with there child miss them .

I don't defend fathers who don't have anything to do with there children . I feel no matter what the relationship with your child's mother you should pay your way , know your child an see the, .

I understand that this is not always possible , I have no know,edge of abusive relationships , and can not comment . Everyone's situation is different and I understand s safety  a first proooity


There are people that have know me and my daughter less than a year . They know everything about my daughter , well almost . They ask about her every day , they see her at least once sometimes twice a week . They don't have to but they care . They want too . Hey might not be round forever  but there feeling a space  hat shouldn't be there to fill , but had been left wide open .

One day I hope my daughter will never have a space to fill , I hope she never has to miss out . But then again I fill any space , I can work harder and we can do it just the two of us .

No wrapping paper quick lets make some !!

Night before we're due to go away for my dads birthday . Totally forgot to wrap presents .nquick get the glue sugar paper and stickers out ! Let the toddler go loss , perfect !!

I think our brain works in magical ways

Do you remember having days/experiences when you swear your never going to forget how painful/bad/embarrassing the situation is ?!

They always say about child birth , you remember the experiences but your brain blocks out the pain , when you remember back on it ! Others wise women wouldn't keep having babies would they ?!?!

This time last year I was still dealing with my marriage break up , my nan had just died and my daughter was teething 7 just 7 teeth at the same time . Sleep wasn't happening , tears a plenty and consent lows .

A year on . Yes I can remember the key facts and some of how that felt . But the worse of it I can't . I'm sure if I really thought of it , really dug into my memory's .
 But on just saying were I was and what I was doing . Those painful moments don't make me want to hide.

Maybe it's because I picked myself up and brushed myself off . Maybe I just don't wana believe they existed . But I really really really believe the brain in magical ways !

I recently had a friend who's father in law was in ICU for a few months , he was in clear sound mind although poorly . He can't tell you much about his time in there . I believe that's the brain working its magic .

This may not be true , it may just be my wishful thinking . But I honestly think its are brain magical way of keeping us going .

Oh no ..

So last week we went on family hoikday to centre parcs longlet . Ever since my dads 50 th birthday we always go away .
 I'm very lucky that they still invite us and to have the chance if a proper hoilday . Even better this year as I am mental n a much better place .

So the Sunday before when little miss woke up with a roaring temptureture of 39.6 , rash and runny nose . Sadness started to kick in . I really wanted it to be a great time away , a chance for my parents to enjoy time with her .

So mission lets nip this in the bud began !!

Medciene , blankets , mummy cuddles and Disney junior to the rescue .  I was on edge all day as my daughter has had tonsaltis 3 times this year . So was praying it didn't turn into that !

Around about 4pm , I switched telly off and braved getting her to do something else .

Now it might only have lasted less an 10 mins , but I got her doing some puzzles !

It felt like a huge achievement and gave me hope for the following day .

We were very lucky that it was just 3 days of high temptureture and rash . She does still have a cough and snotty nose still .

But it didn't ruin the hoilday for anyone . Best of all my dad got to speand quality time with my little girl :-).

I am if course very lucky to have a healthy child . My heart goes to those who aren't so lucky .

We're getting central heating !!!

We're getting central heating ! We're getting central heating !!!!


I'm doing a little dance and hugging my little girl tight ! How lucky are we ?!?!

Having living in rented property before where I had electric heaters I knew how expensive they are to run . Ill be really honest and say I can't afford to use them . It would be like sitting outside and putting pound coins down the drain .
 We're near the middle of November and we are yet to have heating on . Hot water bottles and blankets are ruling the way.

 I was so grateful to receive this property ,it didn't matter there was no central heating or that I don't have a bath just a shower .  We had a place to call our own to be safe and secure .

So when the front door went , I never expected a bloke from housing to ask if I wanted central heating installed !
 I may have got a little excited and stared at him in shock !!

The old tenants had refused to have it installed . According to the man from housing , he just happened to be passing , and thought he would pop in to see if I wanted it installed .

 If I hadn't been here , if he hadn't popped in , we would never have had a chance of getting on the list again . And the application process would have taken so long .


With ever day that passes I realise how lucky I am . I'm glad we live in a country that when your down on your luck you have a saftety net .

 

Blashford lakes -Halloween event for under 5s.

Though pathways children's centre in ringwood , we were able to find out about a event for under 5s at blandford lakes .
 At a small cost of £2 , we got to do some arts and crafts . Explore the resvere with a guide and learn about nature . We got to build dens , peel toasting sticks , collect firewood , make magic potions , painting and play dough . All in 2 hours on a Tuesday moring .

 It was much much more than we expected and great fun . I learnt just as much as my little miss did . She lasted a good 1.5 hours and had good nap afterwards . We will defo be attending there next event and will encourage are friends to do so too .

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